Comments on: Pain Threshold

By: Indy

Indy — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 17:33:15 +0000

Fluctuations in pain tolerance really are amazing, aren’t they? Twice recently, I’ve just found that everything hurts and I was only willing to go so far. After each of those occasions, I played again a few days later and was as close to a pain slut as I get. It’s so frustrating when your body can’t take what your mind wants on a given day…

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 16:46:41 +0000

Hey lovely girl, don’t worry I think it’s a bit of a case of swings and roundabouts – sometimes you want to play hard and sometimes you’re not in that headspace. I reckon it’s a winter thing because I’m a bit wet right now as well – I think sometimes when we get upset quickly it’s because you’re under the weather or upset or down about something else. It’s nothing to worry about and at some point the switch will flick back the other way and you’ll start wanting to take loads again. In the meantime be nice to yourself and play sensually – I bet it’s a winter thing – we’re 4 days off the longest day of the year – as soon as the sun comes round (or we get pretty snow!) you’ll feel more ‘go’! And really who cares if you cry – I cry all the time – it’s just when it gets snotty it’s unpleasant…I’m rambling now but fret not xox

By: Destructicon

Destructicon — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 16:06:45 +0000

Ps> is that your actual bottom in the photo attachment?

By: Destructicon

Destructicon — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 15:50:04 +0000

Don’t forget the all important fact that your body’s tolerance is not a constant level!

Many things can cause your tolerance (pain, etc) to fluctuate. Your chemistry dictates how your brain reacts to nerve signals from your body – some days you can be extra sensitive, and others you can take a beating without batting an eyelash or shedding a tear.

Beside, as Scarlett so wisely put it, we spankers adore the tears and reactions!

-D

By: Kaylex

Kaylex — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 15:38:38 +0000

Actually as the one in my group who is stoic and never cries I’m jealous of those who can. I’d trade my ability to take it hard with your ability to cry any day.

By: Scarlett

Scarlett — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 13:00:09 +0000

You’ve said yourself that the point of the whole of BDSM is the mental side, at least for lots of us it is. It’s not a competition (and if it were, I’d loose, I’m not a hard arse and I don’t pretend to be) there’s nothing wrong with responding to pain with “Ow , that hurts.” It’s so much nicer to be the kind of person who reacts to someone completely stoic. Who want’s to cane a girl who’s going “Yeah? And?” or “Yeah… a bit to the left please.” That’s not what the males you play with get off on so being super pain tolerant would be counterproductive.

By: Paul

Paul — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 09:30:08 +0000

Jessica, as one gets older, it’s inevitable that one can do less, the upside is that experience kicks in.
It seems to me as an onlooker that you are a valuable asset to your younger friends.
So it’s swings and roundabouts dear girl, so while others may beat you in the pain stakes, when it comes to organizing, wow!!!
Warm hugs,
Paul.