I am sitting at my computer typing this in such a furious mood that my fingers are stabbing the keyboard like machine-gun fire. I am irate, furious, cross, angry and fed up. Why? Because yet again, I have been let down by a timewasting male submissive.
In this case, the so-called submissive had agreed to be part of the staff team for the house party, but at the 11th hour, he has dropped out. His money has been paid, his uniform ordered, his dietary requirements noted and his food and drink bought and paid for. But suddenly, with only a week to go before the party, he can’t get time off work. So he says. What he actually means is that he’s got cold feet and doesn’t want to come.
I have this problem endlessly with males, never or hardly ever with women. I’m sorry if that sounds sexist. But it’s true. When a girl says she will do something, nothing, short of bereavement or serious illness will stop her. Whereas men are happy to agree to do things, but then, when it comes to the crunch, they often drop out with a spurious excuse, like the one given to me by the above-mentioned idiot. What do you mean you can’t get time off work? You agreed to take the role on in September. Surely you haven’t left it till bloody November to ask for time off work? How stupid are you?
The scene is full of people who think that BDSM sound a bit naughty, a sexy idea that they might like to try but are actually too scared to, mostly because they don’t understand it. You can normally spot these people before they waste your time, but sometimes, like this time, they slip through the net and give you massive amounts of grief. Why is it acceptable to take on something, knowing full well that when the time comes, you might have gone off the idea? Why is it ok to let someone down at the last minute? Why is it ok to say that you really like to do something, when actually you don’t and you are so desperate to meet a female domme that you make stuff up in the hope that you can get to know her and then she won’t mind? Well I’ve got news for you. She will notice and she will mind. She is not thick.
Arghgghghg*
When we did the interviews, out of the male subs we called, four never turned up after agreeing to the interview. Out of those four, only one had the courtesy to call us and cancel. We just never heard from the others again. Where do these guys get off? Are they so sad and so desperate for attention? Do they get some kind of weird thrill from being a pain in the arse?
Anyway, the gist of it is that we are now a member of staff down. The rest of the staff say they will manage, but are unhappy. The chef says he will manage, but he is also unhappy. Cue unhappy and really fucking pissed off Jessica. So if anyone knows anyone who might like to be a footman or a maid, drop me an email. At least your uniform is already paid for!
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*Jessica takes deep and sobbing breath. Rolls shoulders. Tries to remain calm and not start smashing things.
Hiya, i would love to help out though next week I can’t due to having deviousness of my own planned but i’d love to maybe get involved with something in the future! Have only been reading your blog a while but I think the effort and imagination you put into everything is great
On another note, do you know Sir Guy, he’s not that far from your neck of the woods and he might know of someone that can help you out in the imminent future.
Hope all goes well
TG xx
Oh darling. I’m off to Wales next week unexpectedly, as well as needing to be there the week after. If it wasn’t for that, I’d have come and maided for a couple of days.
But things will be fine – you coped with pretty much this number of staff last year, and also in the first year too, remember? And your splendid staff know their stuff inside out now.
As for timewasters… well, I remember a while back when I was helping someone else find a male sub, and it hasn’t done a whole heap for their reputation in my eyes. Luckily I know one or two excellent exceptions to the rule…
Take a deep breath and don’t let it spoil your weekend x
Oh ffs!!! What an asshole. Really sorry for the added stress sweetie but we’ll all have a great time and do whatever we can to make things go smoothly.
Big hugs and thanks so much for all you’re hard work. We know you’d never let us down. xxx
Hang in there, Jess. I can’t imagine that you’ll throw anything less than a splendid party no matter what happens. I only hope that you get to enjoy it!
Jessica, all I can say is that I know how you feel.
I’m sure that your friends and everyone will pull together and you will have a gigantic success.
Warm hugs,
Paul.
How frustrating! If it weren’t for the space-time continuum and various other inconvenient realities, I’d be first in line at the servants’ quarters for you. But I trust you’ll all pull it off and have an amazing time, no matter what.
Ditto Graham’s comment – I’d totally offer to help out if geography weren’t an issue, but unfortunately it is. However, it is what it is, so I guess all you can do is try to take a deep breath and relax, bear with any difficulties – and delegate to spread the workload and reduce the Jess-stress! Good luck hon xxx
You can always relegate Cecily to the kitchens if any help is needed. xxx
How frustrating… I know I’m not brave enough to participate in such a major roleplaying event – that’s why I would never volunteer for it! (I prefer to read about it here instead, lol) If someone commits to an event like this, they should make sure to be there no matter what…
I’m with Graham on the space-time continuum and various other inconvenient realities. I think I could have made an excellent footman, if I do say so myself.
Hope you have calmed down enough by now to look forward to your weekend. We’ve agreed to do without lillEJ at our party weekend, so we hope she behaves appropriately at yours, watever that may turn out to be. Have fun.
@carolineG, an excellent footman, I’d say you would be. Will we get to see that at Nimhneach? You might even do a short spell on the door announcing guests as they arrive.