Ok, I’m going to say it.
I really enjoy it when a dom slaps me across the face.
It’s a difficult thing to admit. For one, lots of people don’t approve of it, particularly in the CP scene as opposed to the BDSM scene. For them it is too derogatory and humiliating. Secondly, if you don’t do it right, you can hurt someone, catch their eye, bruise their cheek. Thirdly, I do vaguely consider myself to be a feminist* and nothing screams ‘brute!’ more than a dom giving you a jolly good slap.
Which is probably why it’s so hideously erotic and insinuates itself evilly into my mind like a crack-addict in a hospital pharmacy.
As a related thing, I also really like having my hair pulled as well. There’s something about a dom, male or female, when I step over the line, showing me, quite clearly, that they are in charge and if I don’t behave myself straight away, there’s going to be a lot of pain in my near future. Nothing shows this quite so clearly as the unexpected slap on the cheek, which can be quite gentle, moving through sharp to the rocks-your-head-back type. There’s something about the shame, the burn of your skin as you feel your cheek prickle as the blood rushes to the fingerprints on your pale flesh.
It has to be right though. If a dom walked up to me at a club and just smacked me across the face, he’d be looking for his teeth***. If a dom I don’t respect does it, I get really angry and upset. I have to have previously agreed to allow the dom to do this at his leisure. But with the doms I trust, the shock and shame of a slap to the face can reduce me to tears and instant obedience when a severe caning will only make me grit my teeth and search for a cheeky reply.
The most effective play technique as far as I am concerned is to slap sharply then almost instantly, caress the area of the slap gently. I will invariably shrink away from the hand, expecting a second slap and encounter only tenderness. For some reason, this makes me so excited I’m surprised I don’t go off like a firework.
It’s funny isn’t it, how something that has such negative connotations can also be such an expression of regard?
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*In a ‘postmodern-anarchic-RACK**-ironic-eccentric-quite likes cooking and feet kissing’ way.
**Risk Aware Consensual Kink
***Note to readers, if you see Jessica in a club, do not attempt this!
Jessica, you are one interesting girl, this is a dangerous maneuver unless you know the slapee very well, not to be recommended as a random action.
Warm hugs,
Paul.
This (and one other thing) is something I consider to be a ’soft limit’, as in it’s out of bounds with new partners until I let them know otherwise. When that time comes – yes, it’s yummy. I really like the shock of it and the feeling of control.
I’m going to agree with every single letter of this post–everything, the knicker-ruining hotness of the act properly done, the teeth grinding awfulness of it if it’s done improperly without consent, and the shame of admitting that you like it at all. And the meltingness of the split-second switch from slap to caress. Perfect.
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