Getting into the swing of the house party preparation (only 8 weeks to go – not enough time!), I gave a dinner party for some of the brand-new guests to practise their Regency roles in a slightly less grand setting than the champagne reception on the opening night of the big bash.
I spent time planning dinner, drawing up a shopping list, dusting the dining room and writing a note for my maid Sophie (oh for the days when there was an entire staff of people to do my biding!). I instructed her that the finest crystal and china were to be used, instructed her not to drop it and then wrote in brackets ‘I really mean this’. Not that darling Sophie would of course. But I have played with people in a domestic sense before who seem to think that deliberately chucking china on the floor is a sure-fire way for me to punish them. No. Deliberately chucking china on the floor is a sure-fire way for you to get kicked out of my house and asked never to darken my doors again.
It made me think about subs playing for attention. Sometimes, the doms in our lives need a bit of encouragement to swing into action. A cheeky remark. A look. A sly poke of the tongue. Hell, I do it myself – you sometimes want to provoke them, to give them the excuse to deal with you. But sometimes you can take it too far, push them too much. The above mentioned china worry is no joke – I have maided in the past and wouldn’t dream of deliberately damaging something to get attention. But quite a lot of subs would and they are not the subs I want to be staff at the house party! Because sometimes, as a sub, you have to be self-controlled. To know when to push and when to stop. And that’s the hardest lesson of all for a submissive, because sometimes you want to play so much that you want to push and push until all hell is unleashed. But that’s never a good idea. Doms know their limits – for example, I won’t play when I am angry with someone – so subs should as well. We shouldn’t always expect the doms to know the limits and know where to draw the line. We are responsible for ourselves. And we should take that responsibility. Every time. No excuses.
I can’t believe that anyone could ever think that breaking things on purpose was a) a good idea or b) funny. Though I was pretty scared I might do so by accident. Being a maid is about making everyone’s life easier… not getting attention by violating the Wedgewood.
Scarlett, the two times I have maided chez Jessica I have been so terrified of the Wedgewood it has almost been like tempting fate… In my own relationship I have, alas, been responsible for the end of a couple of plates and a bowl (the bowl whilst I wasn’t even there!). All of these have made me so upset that they were desperate to reassure me, not punish me. And their stuff is from IKEA, not Josiah’s finest!
As for the OP – I’m a bit cheeky at times, not necessarily to provoke, just to be funny. But yes, I am aware that sometimes making a particular comment / doing a particular act that I am itching to do would be pushing too far and crossing a line – and yes, then I need to take responsibility and have some self-control. I manage it – but it’s sometimes not very easy!