Comments on: Honesty http://www.bendoverjessica.co.uk/wordpress/2009/07/26/honesty/ A Kinky Girls Guide to Life... Sun, 27 Feb 2011 01:14:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Emma Jane http://www.bendoverjessica.co.uk/wordpress/2009/07/26/honesty/comment-page-1/#comment-420 Emma Jane Tue, 28 Jul 2009 23:58:37 +0000 http://www.bendoverjessica.co.uk/wordpress/?p=379#comment-420 This really struck a chord with me Jessica. It's an interesting topic and one I've been thinking about myself a lot lately. I started my blog to allow me ramble about my kink, yet already I find myself censoring it. There are things I've thought but not written because I'm concerned about upsetting others either directly or indirectly. And that makes me feel restricted. On the other hand there are things I would be very uncomfortable about other people writing about me and have made this known to my play partners. The here are the details I'll share in person but not online because I don't want people who don't know me getting the wrong idea. That said I've still been surprised and slightly unhappy by something that appeared on someone else's blog about me. So I can understand where it gets complicated. If we all lived our lives fully online, completely anonymous and never met, it wouldn't be a problem. But since many of us cross paths frequently we're not so happy to have information shared we didn't like. This really struck a chord with me Jessica. It’s an interesting topic and one I’ve been thinking about myself a lot lately. I started my blog to allow me ramble about my kink, yet already I find myself censoring it. There are things I’ve thought but not written because I’m concerned about upsetting others either directly or indirectly. And that makes me feel restricted.

On the other hand there are things I would be very uncomfortable about other people writing about me and have made this known to my play partners. The here are the details I’ll share in person but not online because I don’t want people who don’t know me getting the wrong idea.

That said I’ve still been surprised and slightly unhappy by something that appeared on someone else’s blog about me.

So I can understand where it gets complicated. If we all lived our lives fully online, completely anonymous and never met, it wouldn’t be a problem. But since many of us cross paths frequently we’re not so happy to have information shared we didn’t like.

]]> By: Martha http://www.bendoverjessica.co.uk/wordpress/2009/07/26/honesty/comment-page-1/#comment-417 Martha Tue, 28 Jul 2009 20:54:16 +0000 http://www.bendoverjessica.co.uk/wordpress/?p=379#comment-417 Fraid I am also at odds with you over this one. m'dear, and I'm sure you know why. Honesty, imo, is *not* always the best policy, when all that results is hurt. But then I am an old git, and have learnt those lessons the hard way. Everyone, in the end, must tread their own path and live by the consequences. Fraid I am also at odds with you over this one. m’dear, and I’m sure you know why. Honesty, imo, is *not* always the best policy, when all that results is hurt. But then I am an old git, and have learnt those lessons the hard way. Everyone, in the end, must tread their own path and live by the consequences.

]]> By: catherine http://www.bendoverjessica.co.uk/wordpress/2009/07/26/honesty/comment-page-1/#comment-411 catherine Mon, 27 Jul 2009 21:36:30 +0000 http://www.bendoverjessica.co.uk/wordpress/?p=379#comment-411 Jess, I do see where you're coming from, but I also understand The Lover's issue. My take on it is that while honesty is a highly laudable trait, it's one thing for someone to tell me an unpalatable truth to my face, but another for them to then tell everyone they and I know. (And how I feel about them telling everyone will probably depend on quite how unpalatable that truth was!) I guess I think there is a line between honesty between individuals and washing one's dirty linen in public, and probably different people will see that line as being in slightly different places along the spectrum. Does that make sense? Big hugs xxx Jess, I do see where you’re coming from, but I also understand The Lover’s issue. My take on it is that while honesty is a highly laudable trait, it’s one thing for someone to tell me an unpalatable truth to my face, but another for them to then tell everyone they and I know. (And how I feel about them telling everyone will probably depend on quite how unpalatable that truth was!) I guess I think there is a line between honesty between individuals and washing one’s dirty linen in public, and probably different people will see that line as being in slightly different places along the spectrum. Does that make sense? Big hugs xxx

]]> By: Scarlett http://www.bendoverjessica.co.uk/wordpress/2009/07/26/honesty/comment-page-1/#comment-400 Scarlett Sun, 26 Jul 2009 22:01:30 +0000 http://www.bendoverjessica.co.uk/wordpress/?p=379#comment-400 I think that honestly is a super underrated quality, maybe because we live in a world where teachers now aren't supposed to tell students they've got something wrong in case it damages their self esteem. I think people assume that they're going to be told what they want to hear which in the long run is pretty counterproductive. I'd much rather hear something I didn't want to and then be able to trust someone fully to tell me the truth. I think that honestly is a super underrated quality, maybe because we live in a world where teachers now aren’t supposed to tell students they’ve got something wrong in case it damages their self esteem. I think people assume that they’re going to be told what they want to hear which in the long run is pretty counterproductive. I’d much rather hear something I didn’t want to and then be able to trust someone fully to tell me the truth.

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